5 Reasons You Should Spend Time Alone With Your Mate



The longer you are in a relationship, the easier it is to lose that spark. Planning time for you and your lover to be alone is extremely important in helping you to reconnect. Running errands or going grocery shopping together is not always enough to reignite the spark. It may be difficult if you have children or a busy job or schedule, to find the time. Sometimes you don’t give your relationship the importance it deserves because everything else on your to-do list seems more important. Take a night off, go out alone with your partner and try to leave the household headaches at home. Enjoy yourself, remember to let loose and have fun. You deserve it!

“Connection is the energy that exists when we feel seen, heard, and valued, when we can give and receive without judgment and when we derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”―Brene Brown


Have Fun Together

Enjoy each other’s company. Remind yourselves why you got together and liked each other in the first place. Whether you are cooking dinner, sitting on the couch, watching TV or driving in the car, remember to HAVE FUN! When you smile, laugh, and enjoy what you are doing, you will give off positive energy. This will make your partner want to be around you and feed off of your energy. If you are smiling and having fun, they will have fun with you.

“People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing.”―Dale Carnegie


Find Similar Interests

Taking time to do things together can help to strengthen your relationship. Sharing hobbies and similar interests can help you to better connect with another person. Just like women connect when they enjoy talking together, relaxing while taking a walk, sunbathing or enjoying a nice meal, couples can connect in the same ways. By doing things you enjoy together you can really have fun together. Try finding a similar interest whether it be taking a cooking class, playing golf or disc golf, walking in the park or going to check out some live music. Finding things to do together will give you events to look forward to, good conversation to talk about and fun memories to reflect on. It’s not that you shouldn’t have your own hobbies that you do alone, because you should, it’s healthy to do so. But find a balance between doing things on your own and doing things together.

“The purpose of any healthy relationship is to find someone that will magnify your life’s experiences, not tolerate it or become a spectator of it.”―Shannon L. Alder



Everyone needs alone time to have playtime. For those of you who do not have sex regularly with your partner, you’re probably secretly envious of those who do. And for those of you who do make time to regularly have sex, you may not always take the time to make it special or fulfill your partner’s needs. Either way, taking time to have good, hot sex is important. We need three things to be happy people in life: water, food and sex. To have one without the others leaves your life unbalanced. Having regular sex helps to create a stronger bond between you and your partner. When you physically connect with some, it increases intimacy, physically and emotionally.

“I don’t know the question, but sex is definitely the answer.”―Woody Allen


Appreciate Each Other

Spending time alone gives you the opportunity to appreciate each other. When you are truly focused on each other, it allows you to notice the little things. How he opened the door for you or how she let you have the last bite. How she makes you laugh or how he lets you listen to your music in the car even though you know he hates it. Savor those moments when you have the time to notice and appreciate your loved one. They really are precious moments that remind you why you love each other. And remember to tell and show your partner you appreciate them!

“Don’t forget, a person’s greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated.”―H. Jackson Brown Jr.

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