Typically, here at Free Your Mind, we like to keep our articles positive. We don’t like to write about what we shouldn’t be doing, as that creates negative energy. However, we made an exception for this article because we believe it is that important to stop saying these negative, horrible things to ourselves.
 

1. “F” my life

When you say this to yourself, or out loud to others, you are telling the universe to really “F” up your life, even more so than you think it already has. I remember when I was in high school and this became the “cool” thing to say when something went wrong. Kids were saying it left and right. Well, it’s not cool anymore and it actually never was. Why would you want to bring more negative energy into an already crappy situation? Wish good upon yourself and your situation, that is what will help you come up with solutions to resolve whatever challenges you are facing.
 

2. I hate myself

You hate yourself? Really?! If you truly hate yourself, then it’s time to go seek professional help. Seriously. No one should hate themselves. However, most people that make this statement say it after he or she has made a mistake or done something dumb. But why say these harsh, mean words and bring yourself down even more? How about accepting that you made a mistake, remembering we all make mistakes sometimes, and giving yourself some compassion, love, and encouragement instead? If we don’t stick up for ourselves and build ourselves up, who will?
 

3. I suck at life

People usually make this statement after they have made a mistake, can’t get something right, or can’t understand something. This is pretty much telling the universe that you are a failure and to treat you as such. So not only are you struggling to do whatever made you make this statement, but now you have generalized it to mean that you just suck at living life. Wow. Talk about sabotaging yourself. Instead, try telling yourself you can do this! By giving yourself positive words of encouragement, your chances of succeeding increase. Love yourself! Give yourself a hug, if you need one–Lie on your back, tuck your knees into your chest, and give yourself a long, tight squeeze.
 
In general making negative statements to ourselves, not only hurts our egos, but it actually creates negative energy that clouds over us, holding us back from what we truly desire. We should be making statements about what we hope for and want in life, not what we don’t want. The universe hears your positive and negative statements equally. It doesn’t know if you are joking or didn’t mean it. Choose your words carefully and be compassionate with yourself.
 

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” ~Buddha

“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.” ~Jack Kornfield